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A Very Strange Experience!!

We see Krsna in everything. My children literally grow up with Krsna. They eat His prasadam, listens to His stories every day and treats Him as the head of family.

Though they cannot speak Tamil, they sing Pallandu pallandu for perumal everyday. Even when they fight, they go and complain to Krsna about the other sibling. They will only listen to Krsna as well. Both my husband and adiyen would use only Krsna to pacify them. They are at least Krsna-fearing🙂

My first son will start his day with Acharyar thaniyangal, Bhagavad Gitai and Pallandu pallaanu after his regular sandya vandanam. He likes our sanadhana dharma and advocates it at his school whenever he can with very happy attitude. Adiyen do not teach much as I don’t know much. But whatever little adiyen is capable to teach, Krsna blesses my children to take them with such conviction due to the mercy of acharyar.

Even at temple, if anybody gives chocolates as prasadam which most of the times, to our misfortune, contain gelatin and are loaded with other non vegetarian preservatives, to our great relief and happiness, my children will not accept or eat them. My second son, who is 6 years old is very naughty and cheeky. He will pretend to accept it to provoke me but still won’t accept it even if I ask his to do so.

I know many parents would say their children sing very well, play instruments very well, say hundreds of slokam very well. These are the joys of parenthood and only mothers can understand what joy this bring out even though many think it is mere bragging. I see nothing wrong in it for these things only encourage children to do them more. In psychology it is called positive reinforcement and positive conditioning.

One thing that brings such a joy to adiyen is, they trust Krsna completely and treat His prasadam and Him one and the same. They will never compromise on prasadam:) This may sound ordinary for someone who live in divya desam but for children who grow up in western countries, this is such a challenge.

I consider my first son as the Guruvayoor kannan’s prasadam as we went to Guruvayoor first time in my life just few days after my marriage. Adiyen prayed sincerely to Guruvayoor kannan to come with me even if I have to go to Australia.

My first son, Pranav is also a very humble child. At least so far 🙂 in spite of turning a teenager this year 🙂 Today (November 9th) he came home and enquired me what adiyen would do if somebody slipped $50.00 into my bag and go away.

I told him I would give it back. He then asked me what I would do If I were in a train and that some body got down very quickly at the next station after slipping in the money.

I asked him straight away what the matter was. He said he was doing some school work on his lap top while sitting on the steps of the train. School children are not allowed to sit on seats in trains in Sydney as the tickets are free for them 🙂 The seats are for the passengers who buy tickets 🙂!! I wonder whether there is any rule for the passengers who buy tickets through discounted fair, like one leg on seat and another hanging!!!

When the next stop was announced, a middle aged man who appeared to be decent, went past him. For a brief second, he stopped by my son and he slipped something into my son’s packet and said “Buy a nice pair of pant or shoes, May God bless you” and then he rushed out to get down.

My son said he was really worried and scared in the beginning. Then he was taken aback as he realized the man had placed $50.00 into his shirt pocket!! This is a huge money for a kid, at least for Pranav as we don’t entertain pocket money!

When he told me, I did not know how to react being a community worker myself. I was very alarmed. I enquired to see if there is any risk of harm.

Why him? I was slightly panicked. I looked at my son and he looked fine to me. He wears his school uniform which says that he is going to one of the tops schools in Sydney, in fact No.2 in Sydney!! He carries his laptop (surface pro) and looks pleasantly dressed. So he definitely does not look like a poor child or under poverty!!! The only thing that might differentiate him from other kids is his shika (tuft / kudumi). So I was very concerned.

Even his shoes appeared to be fine though looked slightly battered. Schools in Sydney are of high standards and won’t let the students attend them if their dress code does not meet their standards.

He said his friends joked him that he should dress better 🙂, perhaps with designer brands! and even I wondered I must have ironed his uniforms !!!

As a concerned mother and a community worker, I called emergency and reported this incident. The police asked me whether I wanted to lodge any formal complaint. I told them ” no ” as I did not know the intention of the gentle man and did not want to cause him any nuisance as he might be really a loving and caring person. So no complaint was made against him but the incident was ‘reported’.

As a psychotherapist, I tried to work out the intention behind it the other way. My son might have reminded him of someone in his family or someone he had cared once or someone he had missed so much. Perhaps he might have thought Pranav a poor refugee child who is working very hard by the Asian/Indian appearance of Pranav!! or simply a reason he knows and only he can clarify. I tried to remain non judgmental, as my profession advises.

When my husband came from work, we explained what happened. My husband said I had over reacted by calling police.

May be. But I am a community worker ! The mystery man may be a gentle man and I do not want to suspect his noble intentions as I want to give him the benefit of doubt. Unfortunately some experience and my profession always make me little bit over cautious, over protective and over thinking 🙂

But still I was concerned as a mother. My husband and I told my son to be careful.

We are neither poor nor in need of such money. But we do know how this money can make a difference in others life. My son said he would like to give this to charity. We happily agreed to this.

Also we told him to ask the person to contact us if he happened to see the person again on train. We wanted to say our thanks to the person for his kindness and share our appreciation with him. At the same time, we also would like him to know that there might be other ways to do donation without scaring anyone 🙂. We also would like to ask the person whether he would be happy if we spent the money on Krsna and a charity run by our acharyar which we are going to do any way.

Let us see this from Krsna perspective. Where does Krsna come here? you may wonder 🙂

I can’t help but wonder such acts even if the intention is good. if the man has wanted to help, he could have donated to charity!!!! So this is rather an impulse act, not a planned one. something in Pranav must have made him do it 🙂 ( is he really looking very poorish ? , poor pranav : )

Putting aside negative thoughts and usual fears, I tried to see positive things in it. Many of my friends who are bhaagavathas told me that the person must have seen some innocence and effulgence in my son’s face. They implied that this must be from Krsna as they reminded me of the kindness in that gentle man is Krsna!!! I would love to think this way. But I am not very convinced of their suggestions 🙂 as we are nowhere near the definition of sincere bhagavathas, only trying our worst! We can do better 🙂

But adiyen told Pranav only few days ago that he should build temple for Rangamannar and udayavar in Sydney, Vamana desam as his duty to both acharyar and parents where Udayavar will be given utmost service. He was puzzled and said how he could do it. We told him not to worry and take prabhupada as his example who built many temples around world with less than 100 rupess in his pocket. Adiyen also said funnily that Lakshmi / thaayar would come by herself to build temple for her husband 🙂

I told Pranav to reassure (after a lenghty call with police) that it is just Krsna leela to prove that Lakshmi/dhanam will never be a problem if we are sincere. We realised even a small hut will be enough to conduct satsangam. Why million or billion dollar temple when all Krsna wants is patram, pushpam , palam and toyam !! So Pranav looked little convinced that he can build a temple for Udayavar.

Pranav shares his English birth day with Sri Ramanujar. On the day of his upanayanam, our acharyar gave him a book which read that around 1000 years ago, Sri Ramanujar was born on April 4th 1017. To our pleasant surprise, this is also the birth day of Pranav. What amazed us then and now is, only after Pranav was born, adiyongal took complete saranagathi at our Acharyar’s lotus feet and realized the importance of taking panchasamskaram and being a Sri Vaishnava.

Pranav’s school was quite opposite to Radha Gopinath Mandir in Sydney!!

I don’t know if Pranav sees Krsna everyday but adiyen thinks Radha Gopinath sees him every day and looks after him.

“May God bless you” is still ringing into my ear. May Krnsa bless the mystery man for his helping nature!!! Because he kind of made Pranav to understand service to Krsna is the first duty.

May Krsna bless everyone!!

Please note: Please note the intention is to create awareness within our own family to realise and relate everything is administered by Krsna and live life as a service to Him. adiyen apologises if this post makes anybody any inconvenience. RadheKrsna!

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Radhe Krsna,

Dear friends ,
Hope you are all doing great with the blessings of divine grace. Yesterday I was talking to a friend whom I met recently. He asked me what my ambition was! I reflected for a while and then replied : to protect mother earth.I see her more important than my biological mother who has given me shelter in her womb for around 10 months and under her wings until I get married.But mother earth , whom I dearly call , Bhoodevi thaayar , gives shelter to me until I reside in this world and a place after I leave my body. As we are NRIs, many ask us to invest on plots which I am very against to do. If only we buy a plot, it should be in a place where the construction can be started immediately and surrounded by homes , not farm lands. I am very against to buying plots that have been created by destroying agricultural lands in remote place where the possibilities of forming civil colonies filled with homes are as remote as the place itself.

I also guess we should all aim to reduce the unnecessary wastes that is dumped on our beloved mother Bhu Devi. Every one has a biological mother and needless to say we all love her. For many, It is very hard to love and respect someone else without expecting anything in return. Children of mother earth have become very selfish and that’s the reason we see violence and hatred everywhere . I believe this is the reason that even in places like India where women was believed to be godlike, women are now treated very poorly and as a result we see many distressing incidents against them.

We don’t share love and respect on a mutual platform. Every one has their own philosophies, own religion, own ways to connect to & with the Almighty (in my case , It’s Sri Krsna 🙂 ). But do we have to feel other religion is different from ours? Other names of denoting the almighty are not as powerful as the one we are used to ? If we look up to the history, we should know how many wars and crimes were done in the name of Almighty and religion. For instance, Nobody questions and tries to change me if I say I like blue color or No body argues with me if I say like vegetable okra(ladies finger, bendi, bendakai, vendakkai) . No body forces me to change my views on matters such as which color I like or which fruit I like. But when I say, I am from this religion and worship my almighty with this name , some try to convert my beliefs by describing other religions are fake and other names for God is not right but blasphemous.

Every language has a different dialects and phonetics. Not all the languages sound similar. Perumane is a way to call Baghavan or almighty in a respectable way. That is how we call Him, the almighty Sri Krsna ,in Tamil. That’s how even Christians call their almighty (yesu pirane or yesu perumane , yesu nathane) in Tamil. every name in sanskrit means particular amsam or specific attribute of Almighty. I guess names such as Allah and Krsna would mean all attractive, omnipotent, omnipresent. We don’t go and tell a Tamil-speaking child to call his mother “mummy ” or a North Indian to call his mummy “thalli” (which is Telugu version of the word mother) . When it comes to the name of Almighty , we fight and argue over the differences of these ways and philosophies to reach him. While there are matter such as religion and doctrines differ from person to person, there are some thing which could not be denied by anyone who is born in this world. Yes, there is something we all can’t deny which is common for everyone regardless of the religions we follow , region we are from and a language we speak. Our love for mother earth and the responsibility in taking care of her are what I believe should be common for every one.If we try to unite with the mutual love and respect on our common ever-caring and highly tolerant mother-earth , we can be enlightened easily with the knowledge of reaching our eternal father. There is no point in honoring father by torturing and abusing our mother.

No body can deny that it is our beloved mother earth who has given a shelter to us and has given a shelter to our ancestors and is going to give shelter to our future generation until she exhausts and be destroyed completely. If we treat her with respect she deserves and with love she deserves, she will not be ruined like this this.
In India , One state refuses to give water to other state and builds dams and reservoirs to stop the water to reach other states. If we think it’s only one mother and all the lands on this earth are part of her body, we will not do such things. We won’t harm a leg to protect the leg or won’t eat food only enough to nourish our head. Every part of our body is very important. What is the point of letting other parts of mother earth go dry, barren and deforested while we boast some part of her look beautiful?

I have strengthened my ambitions again this new year and seeking His blessings and divine guidance to help me stay motivated on them. Protect and nourish mother earth.
1. No more unusable plastic containers and plastic covers.
2.use the existing plastics for ever and never throw them in bin and only recycle them with appropriate resources
3.buy enough clothes and eat enough food
4.help mother earth remain clean in every possible way by not throwing rubbish on her just to prove laziness or save little time
5.try to encourage agricultural business and farmers
6.use biodegradable things
7.learn about environmental science with the view of protecting mother earth.
8.Inspire others by action , not words
9.looking forward to improve my knowledge for the well-being of mother earth by keeping my mind open
10.Educating younger generation to care our mother earth and mother nature
11.Motivate farmer and agricultural business to use earth-friendly procedures and methods to protect mother earth
12.contribute towards the well-being of mother earth by action

Please kindly add your valuable suggestion and plans to help protect mother earth.

Best regards,

P.S: The suicidal rates among the farmers of Cauvery-delta region in Tanjure district, Tamil Nadu , India is very disturbing . Are these issues something which can’t be prevented or beyond human-control? How can we expect mother nature to be very generous and kind to us (no tsunamis, no earth quakes , no floods , no drought, no this and no that) while we won’t do anything generous and loving from our side by not even letting the water go in its own course from one region to another?How any one can differentiate one region from other and claim ownership of certain part of mother earth alone and neglect other part of her to go ruined when every bit of this earth is herself?

A short story : A mother had four children. Each of them said they loved their mother very dearly and wanted to take care of her. They came to an agreement that they should divide her mother equally into four parts. A part up to face and a part before belly and a part up to thigh a part up to her legs. As they lived in different places, they thought it would be better to take the portion that belonged to each of them so that they could take care of their portions without the worry of trespassing the portions of others. So each of them took with them only the portion that belonged to them and tried to look after that part of the body alone from their homes. Alas! Without the other part of the body, each portion of their mother’s body perished and none of them were able to protect or save their mother. As a result of their own action, they all lost the mother whom they thought they loved dearly. Even after the death of their mother who silently agreed to what ever her children wished without complaining even when they were dividing her with their selfish motives, her children blamed each other for the failure saying the others have not taken care of their portions properly.

This short story might seem ridiculous or unrealistic. But this is a real story and this is what we are doing under the name of patriotism, nationalism, regionalism , etc. Even people separate themselves from one area to another within a same village that is not even about one square kilo meter. How can our mother earth be benefited from such silly attitudes of her children?

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